How To: Get Over A YA Feelings Overload

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If you've finished Delirium, Allegiant, The Fault In Our Stars, or any other utterly heartbreaking YA novel, you'll know that recovery can be a hard and difficult process. You slip into one of those quiet moods, everyday things weighed down under the all-too-fresh memory of what you just read, and you try to remind yourself it isn't real. 

But, dammit, it's real enough, and it hurts, and you're not sure how to grieve for people and situations that only exist between the pages of a book. You're not even entirely sure how words on a page can make you feel like this; it's just not rational.

Here at YA Love, we understand, and we want to help.

 1. First off, put that book away. Yes, the one you've left on your bedside table, or in the best spot of your bookshelf, or wherever you can look at it mournfully from time to time. Push it to the back of your wardrobe until a time when the wounds aren't so tender. Then you can return to it and greet it like an old friend - but not yet. 

2. Like in any crisis moment, grab some chocolate - or ice cream, or pancakes, or even bacon. YA Lit can be brutal and you need comfort food. So raid the kitchen or the shop down the street, and get to moping. As Lorelai Gilmore said, "Just wallow. You need to wallow."

3. We're sure you've been mourning for a couple of days now, reminded again and again of the words and lines and entire chapters that brought you to a weeping mess. After this time, we think it's best for you to try moving on. Of course, nothing will replace what that character meant to you, or how much that series affected you, but for your mental well-being (because, frankly, your family are starting to worry), it's might be a good idea to visit your nearest book store.

4. Pick a light-hearted book to get you back into the swing of things - nothing too heavy after the emotional beating you've taken.

Books we would suggest for getting you back on your feet include:

  • The Princess Diaries, by Meg Cabot - class YA lit about totally average Manhattan girl, Mia, being let in on her family's best kept secret: she's actually a princess, and now has a load of princess-y responsibilities. Light, fluffy, and oh-so funny.
  • An Abundance of Katherines, by John Green - possibly the least emotionally wounding of Green's work, this is the story of a boy getting over his latest girlfriend - the 19th named Katherine, in fact - and hitting the road with his best friend. Hilarious, and good fun.
  • Fangirl, by Rainbow Rowell - about a fan fiction writer headed to college without her sister, and feeling a little bit out of her depth. Throw in some romance, and hilarious goings on, and you've got your perfect rebound book.
  • Grasshopper Jungle, by Andrew Smith - this one's a little different. Take one confused protagonist, throw in his girlfriend, his very attractive best friend, and then a legion of six-foot grasshoppers who have taken over the town. Might just be weird enough to shake you out of your book-grief funk.
  • Beauty Queens, by Libba Bray - can you imagine what would happen in a plane-load of beauty contestants crashed on a desert island, and had to somehow survive until rescue arrived? Well, Libba Bray did, and this is the hilarious result.

Got any other suggestions for getting over that heart-wrenching ending, or totally uncalled for character death? Post your comment below.

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