Is Chivalry Dead?
*Disclaimer: I am not a man hater.*
This question is asked by women all over the world daily. ‘Is chivalry dead?’ In our own lives, we want a man who will treat us right, who will respect us and be kind and loving. We complain day in and day out about guys not doing x, y and z, basically being selfish, inattentive or a mixture of both. And we can all agree it is extremely annoying to have to put up with a self-centered male!
Yet a running theme throughout YA, no matter the genre, is that aloof bad boy, standoffish yet very alluring. I mean come on! Reading is meant to be an escape from reality, and isn’t it bad enough that we have to deal with neglectful guys daily, not to have to do it in fictitious worlds as well?
In my opinion, I don’t think there is anything great about a guy who is so hot and cold you don’t know where you stand with him. I’ll admit I do love a good bad boy in a book. In fact some of my favourite books have one. But I want to know what is happening to all the sweet men in the world of YA.
Why is it, that books are only being produced with a hot and dangerous guy in them? And why is it that the girl in the book always ends up falling in love with them? I mean women generally have higher standards than that. Or they should! So why does the heroine have to put up with someone who is less than she deserves?
Some would say that it’s exciting in YA to have a guy who does what he wants when he wants, and isn’t afraid to start a fight. And it is. But it’s when you are reading the same storyline, different book that it begins to get old.
I want a book with a guy that treats a girl right. Who goes out of his way to make her smile or simply pays attention when she’s talking. I want a book where the guy is not trying to act cool all the time. I want a good old fashioned profession of love.
It may sound sappy and yes, I was thinking about Augustus Waters, but I just want a romantic book without all of the uncertainty. Without all of the “Does he hate me? Or really have a burning infatuation with me?”
It’s not as if they won’t sell. No one can say they hate a good romance. And if they do then I believe they just haven’t found the right one.
So after that long rant you are probably wondering ‘why isn’t she giving us a few books with these so called ‘good guys’’? And the answer to that would be…… I am desperately trying to find them. So if anyone has any recommendations or just wants to throw out thoughts on this, I would love to hear in the comments below.
*Note: I have only spoken about ‘bad boys’ as I have read so many books featuring them but I am sure the same could be said for girls in some other YA books. There just doesn’t seem to be any that stand out in my mind. :)*